Ryan and Miranda’s Blog

First I’d like to say Happy Father’s Day to my Daddy!! In 6 short days, he’ll be giving me away to the man of my dreams! I have to admit, I’m a daddy’s girl and this is kind of bitter sweet for me. I love both of my men more than either of them know and am thrilled to be starting a new chapter and relationship with both of them. I’m excited for the times to come when I get to celebrate Father’s day when Ryan becomes a daddy and my daddy becomes a PawPaw to our babies.

Now on to new wedding news… I’m actually handling all the last week wedding planning better than I expected. There are a few things to wrap up, like the seating, placecards, and finishing up the candy buffet. We are meeting with DJ Larry tonight to figure out our reception timeline and our special songs for the evening. Beth Ann is also coming over today to figure out what the heck to do with my hair on the big day!! We have also made a change to the day after events– as some of you may know, we were planning on having a brunch at the hotel on Sunday- but there has been a change of plans. We’re going to have lunch at Ryan’s parents house instead. We’ll be opening our gifts and decompressing after the wedding festivites. We’re planning on having lunch around noon– so long as the newlyweds can get out of bed in time! If you’d like to join us, please let us know. Everyone is welcome! We just want to know how much food to have! Thanks so much to them for offering to host this for us after such a busy weekend!!

Welp, back to wedding stuff– can’t wait to see everyone!

That is the question. Today’s dilemma is whether or not to change my last name when we get married. Part of me says I “should” and there is a very strong part of me that says “I don’t want to”!!!  So, what did I do? Looked to google for some help, of course!!  The pro and cons of changing your name…

Pros- 

• Sharing the same family name with your kids
• Having the same monogram will be easier to get fancy towels for the bathroom– just plain dumb… who needs fancy towels!
• Less complicated documents– bank accounts, house deeds, etc.  – how complicated is an extra name?
• People will know you’re married because you’ll be Mr & Mrs Shary — ehh that sounds like we’re Ryan’s parents.
• Your husband & his family might be appreciative and feel honored that you’ve taken his name — wouldn’t that have the opposite affect on MY family?? And besides, doesn’t actually getting MARRIED count for something?
• Changing your name can be seen as a symbol of your unity as a couple. — ehhh I kinda see their point with this one.
• Denali and Jelly already have the last name of Shary

Cons

• Sooo much paperwork to change your name… and then going through what name you’re under at what place… – paperwork I guess is a one time thing, making everyone change your name in their computer systems… that sounds like a real pain!
• Google will see you as a whole new person with ZERO entries – I’m not that googley popular anyways… and actually prefer to not be listed (so maybe this is a pro)
• My email address has my current last name in it… then I would have to contact everyone to change my email.
• You’re giving up your family identity — this is my BIG one!! 

Possible compromises

• Hyphenate your maiden name and your married name, so you get the best of both worlds– maybe Ryan should hyphenate with me!
• Legally change your name but maintain your maiden name in professional circles – could this work the other way around?
• Make your maiden name your middle name, and/or make your kid’s middle name your maiden name. – this is a possibility
• Make up a new last name for the two of you, combining both of your last names! – I vote for the O’Sharyans

This is going to take a lot of getting used to… and a lot of thinking…